What is pre-martial sex?

Premarital sex is sexual activity practiced by people who are unmarried. Premarital sex is sexual activity practiced by people who are unmarried.

 

Islams view on pre-martial relationships:

Islam’s view on premarital relations is that it is wrong because it is a form of arrogance which can possibly lead to shirk. When Allah ta'ala tells us to not do something and we do it anyway, we are putting our own desires above Allah.

It is, of course, possible to have sex outside of marriage and no harm actually come to society, and it is even possible to have sex outside of marriage and no physical harm come to those involved. But the real harm comes from putting our own nafs (ego) and desires on the same level as or even above Allah, wa audhubillah, and there is absolutely no way to intentionally break one of Allah's rules which is clearly written in the Qur'an for our own desires without damaging our own imaan (faith).

Having premarital sex with someone you intend to marry also risks shirk because you are saying you know better than Allah what Allah has willed. How do you know that your fiancé will live to marry you? How do you know your fiancé will not change his mind? The truth is, none of us know the Qadr of Allah until it falls upon us. Islam does not allow any other view on sex before marriage because of the reasons listed above.

 

What is the age of consent in the UK?

In the UK the age of consent is 16

 

What is rape?

Rape is sex you don't agree to, including forcing a body part or object into your vagina, rectum (bottom), or mouth.

 

What is satutory rape?

Statutory rape is when two people are involved in sexual activity, but one is below the age legally required to have sex.

 

Islam's view on rape:

In the Quran Almighty Allah says: (Quran 4:15) " If any of your women are guilty of lewdness, Take the evidence of four (reliable) witnesses from amongst you against them; and if they testify, confine them to houses until death do claim them, or Allah ordain for them some (other) way." (Quran 24:4) "And those who launch a charge against chaste women, and produce not four witnesses (to support their allegations)- flog them with eighty stripes; and reject their evidence ever after: for such men are wicked transgressors;- (Quran 24:13) "Why did they not bring four witnesses to prove it? When they have not brought the witnesses, such men, in the sight of Allah, (stand forth) themselves as liars!"

These quotes above mean that if a woman is raped then it is not her sin if she is totally not willing it and afraid of Allah (do to reverence). The person who is raping will be sinful. In Islam, we are not allowed to tarnish the honour of anyone. One is required to produce four witnesses when making an allegation of adultery against another person; otherwise, one will be guilty of slandering. A raped woman is a victim that must be treated with honour and kindness. She is not required to produce four witnesses to prove the crime done against her, nor is she punished for the crime done against her. The rapist is the one punished for his crime and this shows Islam’s view is that rape is wrong in Islam.

 

What is the effect of rape on a person?

Rape may affect a person through:

• Post traumatic stress – prolonged feelings of anxiety or stress

• Self Harm

• Flashbacks

• Sexually transmitted diseases

• Depression

• May start to use drugs like alcohol 

 

What is a honour killing?

Honour killing is the murder of a person accused of bringing shame upon his or her family.

 

What is an extra-martial relationship?

An extra-martial relationship is when a married person has sexual activities with someone other then their spouse.

 

Islams view on extra-martial relationships:

Islam is very clear on the topic of extra-marital affairs, and considers it as one of the major sins. In The Qur’an in (Surah 17, al Isra,, verse 32), Allah says: Do not go near adultery, .surely it is an indecency, and an evil way [of fulfilling sexual urge]. (17:32)   Fornication and adultery have severely been condemned in the hadiths of the Prophet (s). While describing the believers, the Qur’an says, “The believers are… those who protect their sexual organs except from their spouses… Therefore, whosoever seeks more beyond that [in sexual gratification], then they are the transgressors.” (23:5-6)  Again Allah says, regarding His true believers: “Those who invoke not, with Allah, any other god, nor slay such life as Allah has made sacred except for just cause, nor commit fornication; – and any that does this deserves punishment.” [Sûrah al-Furqân: 68].

A young man once came to our Prophet (peace be upon him) and said: “O, Messenger of Allah give me a permission to commit fornication.”

The Companions were angry with the way that young man who dared to ask such a thing from the Prophet (peace be upon him), but the Prophet (peace be upon him) did not grow angry and immediately asked him: “Would you like a man to fornicate with your mother?”

The young man replied: “No.”

The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: “Hence other people do not like it for their mothers. Would you like it for your daughter?”

The man said: “No.”

The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: “Hence people do not like it for their daughters….” 

 

What is celibacy?

Celibacy is the state of abstaining from marriage and sexual relation

 

Why people choose to become or stay celibate:

1. Celibacy prevents STDs.
While we're told that regular sex is good for health, STDs are not! Not all of us are able to find a loving, monogamous, disease-free relationship, and, besides that, abstinence (as our high school Sex Ed teachers repeatedly told us!) is the only 100 percent effective method of birth control and disease prevention. Of course having a disease yourself (and wanting to protect a partner) is another good reason to abstain.

2. Celibacy boosts (non-sexual) intimacy.
Sex is bound to intimacy. The lack of desirable partners (or just being burned badly) is reason enough to turn some of us off from sharing our bodies and emotions with others. Addiction or other unhealthy attachments to sex would fall into this category, too.

3. Celibacy creates more 'me' time.
Men and women are working harder than ever. (In some fields, getting ahead requires 110 percent of our time and focus.) This makes it very hard to maintain a relationship, so more people are ditching the dating scene all together and embracing celibacy. Hey, more time to yourself!

4. Celibacy is empowering
Choosing whether or not to do something gives a sense of control and purpose in our lives. A sex-free lifestyle frees up a tremendous amount of brain and emotional space that the strategizing, analyzing and agonizing over our sex lives often fills. Freeing up of some of the above-mentioned time allows us to focus on some of the many empowering, advancing and self-esteem-building activities that can make our lives more meaningful and productive.

 

Islams view on celibacy:

 The Prophet (salla Allahu 'alayhy wa sallam) urged men to get married whenever they can afford to do so. However you don't have to get married and the worst thing we can say is that it is detestable(being celibate) not forbidden.

 

What are homosexual relationships?

Homosexual relationships is a relationship between persons of the same sex.

 

Arguments for homosexual relationships:

Divorce rate may decrease - some people have a divorce due to being infertile and as same sex couples can not reproduce it could lower the divorce rate.

Issue of equal rights - people should have a right to do what they want as long as it does not harm or affect others negatively, so same sex relationships should be allowed.

Increases adoption rate - as same sex couples can not reproduce more children will be adopted maybe leading them to a happy life.

Arguments against homsexual relationships:

It Always Denies a Child Either a Father or a Mother - as the parent of a child will both be of the same sex they will either lack a mother or father.

It Violates Natural Law - Normally marriage takes place between a male and female and results in reproduction most of the time, same sex relationships prevents this.

It Does Not Create a Family - Same sex couples are unable to reproduce so it is unlikely their bloodline will be continued, unless the child is adopted but it will not be their biological child.

Against Islam - Marriage meant to be between a man and woman.

 

Prejudice and discrimination same sex couples face:

Legal discrimination - A gay couple pays extra to allow both to drive the car they rent on vacation, whereas a straight married couple pays for one driver and the spouse is included free.

Religious Discrimination - This can range from a simple refusal to recognize or bless the relationship, to denial of the same support services provided to heterosexual relationships (think religious-based conversion therapy), to active political rallying efforts to deny rights to gays and lesbians

Community discrimination - The community may refuse to speak to them or do something against them because they are a same sex couple e.g.loss of friendship with neighbours.

 

Organization campaigning for the rights of same sex couples:

GRIN Campaign, Global Respect in Education, is a transatlantic non-profit organisation and advocacy group which campaigns primarily for lesbian gay bisexual transgender and queer/questioning (LGBTQ) people's social and political equality in education.It seeks to end discrimination, harassment, and bullying based on being same sex couples.

 

Islam's View on homosexual relationships:

Islam is clear in its prohibition of homosexual acts. Islamic scholars cite these reasons for condemning homosexuality, based on teachings of the Qur'an and Sunnah:

• It clashes with the "natural" order in which God created human beings

• It brings destruction of the family and the institutions of marriage

• It leads people to ignore God's guidance in other areas of life

In Islamic terminology, homosexuality is alternatively called al-fahsha' (an obscene act), shudhudh (abnormality), or 'amal qawm Lut (behavior of the People of Lut). Islam teaches that believers should neither participate in nor support homosexuality.